In my quest to eliminate the weeds in my life, I confided in a friend my tales of why I had to cut some people out of my life and from that stemmed a very open and at least from my view point, honest conversation.

As we shared with one another all kinds of somewhat intimate thoughts, encounters and all that jazz, I ended up saying I think that one of our mutual friends is not always genuine.

And in broken telephone style Mutual friend was told that I called her fake. When that statement fell onto her ears it lacked context. Now I find myself in a situation where my loyalty and standing are being questioned, the test of the authenticity of my character.There is a fine line between talking about someone and gossiping but this line is drawn in the sand and so are plenty other lines. All these lines intercept each other, how does one honestly toe all these lines?

Was I wrong for saying what I said, in the environment which I said it? Admittedly whether or not I would've expressed the same thought in her presence is debatable...

Many may argue that its not what is said but rather how its said [again a blurred line]. Is it not really about interpretation? And doest interpretation open the conversation up to influences like the kind of person you are, your personal way of thinking, your understanding/view of the world or narrow-mindedness and hidden agendas?Allowing maximum room for misunderstandings...

Maybe my statement was uncalled for but I cannot and most certainly will not apologise for engaging in an "honest" conversation honestly. What I said was my truth, my interpretation and yes Mutual friend you are not always genuine and to a certain degree neither am I nor is anybody else for that matter. And if I were you I would check the friend who failed to give you a full view of what was said, ask yourself what she/he got out of it.

Photographers:  Palapala, Lebo Luke Warm and Oriel