A friend of mine has caught a bad case of Ring The Alarm... 

*Nobuhle and *Wandile started dating just a little over four years ago. He was an up and coming actor and she was a varsity drop out. Not what I would call a match made in heaven but they loved each other and that was good enough for me [and good enough for them too]. 

Their fist year of dating was loves true definition, trips to high profiled events, flowers and chocolates, showers of happiness and no signs of trouble in their paradise. She was the envy of all our hearts and he, the man of all our dreams. Needing close to no convincing she moved in with him. Shortly after moving in 'up and coming' turned into struggling actor and things changed. She got a job so that at least one of them had a steady pay cheque. 

She started working, paying rent and providing him with all he needed to live comfortably. After sometime he had her paying his agent, footing the bill for acting classes and hosting more and more dinner parties for him and his actor/director 'buddies' [He had to work his way into the right circles he would tell her]. Things carried on in this manner for a solid two years. She was unhappy and would often proclaim that she deserved better but maintained that she was a good wife in the making, standing by her man through thick and thin. 

Then in a long awaited turn of events Wandile got a break - a small role on a soap which led to a bigger one on a drama series and just like that he became one of the most sought after actors in town. Now he is forever on location til the early hours of the morning and shes at home, alone, with nothing but her tears to put her to sleep. 

Suddenly he cant make time for her, he cant remember anniversaries not even her birthday.Suddenly girls calling the house, him stepping out tho answer calls, whispering on the phone was the order of the day, everyday. 

 She has become this crazy person, snooping through his stuff, checking his mail, listening in on his conversations with others and following him around.

 Driven by her insecurities: she is calling all the girls on his call register, cursing and screaming, threatening to burn down houses, scratching cars and breaking things.

 She doesn't want to leave him. "I've worked too hard to make him" she says to justify staying in this dead end relationship. I get that she feels she has worked too hard and too long to just walk away without a fight... but not all battles are worth the fight. How do I make her see her worth?

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