- LELETHU LUMKWANA
Whether you’re new to the single circuit or a veteran in these parts, being single is not easy. However it is not a death sentence, it’s not even a community service sentence. In fact once you get over the urge to text and call him a hundred times or burn all his clothes and stick pins in the voodoo doll, you will begin to see that being single is not so bad after all.
This is the best time to become your own number one priority. Rediscover and reinvent yourself. Focus on your career/studies, learn a new language, go to a comedy showcase and take a road trip with the girls. Reconnect with yourself and do all the things you’ve wanted to do but never had time to do before. At some point the road will get rough and when it does your mantra should sound something like “I am a strong and beautiful woman, I will get passed this.” So put away that endless supply of chick flicks and twinsavers and get onto the healing path. Once you heal and I mean really heal you will be able to reclaim your life.
If you forget everything you’ve just read at least remember this: don’t make the next man pay for what the last one did or didn’t do.
Photographer: Nappy Head
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this is fresh and light - and i agree with the last line fully -
i think the first week is always the hardest but about four months down the line its almost a distant memory. i fully agree with the rediscovering and reconnecting coz we do tend to lose ourselves in relationships. i miss being in one
Mosa Mosa Mosa! the last line speaks to us men more than yall women coz we are always at the recieving end of the punishment. "one man can make one woman hate all men"
Totally agree with u mosa..... Nyc one!!!
i think it aal goes back to communication between two people at the end of the day ... yeah nice 1 Mosa ...
Can we put that last line on a billboard so other women can see it...
LMAO! thats funny ...
@Bugzy lol billboard?
I just think everybody should get a fair chance to prove themselves...
True words Mo, really well said ;-)... its a process but, nothing one cant get over.
Singlehood is not bad at all. I think the journey of rediscovering YOU is amazing. We tend to forget who we are when in relationships. Amen sista!!
i think people tend to want to be completed by others that they get consumed by the partner. One needs to know themselves first and be comfortable with who they are - then and only then they can merge.
written so simply but straight to the point!
A msg that all women need to hear and embrace, so when you find "MR RITE FOR YOU", its perfect and exactly what YOU want it to be!!
**lovely mosa
Thank you @mizz- zandee
@GG I'm with you 100%
@Emzo yep a relationship can really swallow you since vele theres no I in 'we' right?
@Goerge, that is true, and in most relationships i think the "completion" from their partners is the "comfort zone" which in most cases can do nothing for you but emotional trauma...
Hmm... how did I miss this?
Would be interesting to review singlehood post-the-newly-single euphoria, beyond the first four months.
I know what you mean and I agree it aint pretty (not at all) but positive thinking is needed. Mind over matter kinda thing.